hey all (and maybe this is more for the philisophy forum?) but i've been sorta seeing this guy (scott) on and off for a couple months now and one problem that we always had (and thus and on and off part) is that everytime we'd take a step closer - he'd freak out and need a day or so of space to feel okay. This used to drive me nuts and I would get so frustrated and pissed off at him.

But lately, I find that if I accept him as is (aka: knowing that is probably going to happen at some point - meaning he will probably freak out) I won't be surprised, I won't get really upset about it because - after all - have I just met him, I know what happens, and I am just able to enjoy our good times in the moment and just enjoy the moment. and even when the moment is over, I am able to say - well at least we have this good time this afternoon.

is this incredibly healthy and spiritual or really dysfunctional lol?