alright, well I am sorta seeing this guy at the moment. Whenever we are around each other we for some reason regress to - oh I don't know - around 5,
always play fighting and goofing around (giving each other noogies) and such. and sometimes that will include playful name calling. sometimes that's how
he'll start it. he'll call me a swine (clearly joking so I don't actually hurt him lol) and then I'll say "you're so rude!"
laughing and then whack him in the arm and so it begins.
so cut to yesterday we were goofing around on the bench, having a good ole time (people always give us odd looks when we get going but we don't really care) on the bench - hell we almost broke the bench lol (and of course playfully argued whose girth was the final straw) when all of a sudden he -still in playful mode - called me a bitch.
I feel that some words are over the line. Bitch being one of them. He feels it's all words and that's that. So if swine is okay what's wrong with bitch?
I got annoyed at him and told him I don't like that word. I grew up with that word. and in the future, don't use it.
I will admit that when the people around us went "whoa....." when he said that, it fanned the flames of the situation. Essentially he looked like a prick and I a person who was getting verbally abused - which really really bugged me - because I grew up with that, and even if it wasn't true, I didn't like people thinking it was still going on. I'm being honest.
So I can admit that being aware of other people's opinion, and my childhood defiently influenced the situation and made it more then it would have been if it was just that moment between us. and I was willing to just say alright lets just drop it and in the future kindly don't use that word. now ya know but instead...
he said "you're acting like a baby" because he gets defensive when he feels he might be in the wrong and eventually we did both drop it but I wanted to get other people's 2 cents just for some added perspectives to the situation.
How would you react to a situation like that?
so cut to yesterday we were goofing around on the bench, having a good ole time (people always give us odd looks when we get going but we don't really care) on the bench - hell we almost broke the bench lol (and of course playfully argued whose girth was the final straw) when all of a sudden he -still in playful mode - called me a bitch.
I feel that some words are over the line. Bitch being one of them. He feels it's all words and that's that. So if swine is okay what's wrong with bitch?
I got annoyed at him and told him I don't like that word. I grew up with that word. and in the future, don't use it.
I will admit that when the people around us went "whoa....." when he said that, it fanned the flames of the situation. Essentially he looked like a prick and I a person who was getting verbally abused - which really really bugged me - because I grew up with that, and even if it wasn't true, I didn't like people thinking it was still going on. I'm being honest.
So I can admit that being aware of other people's opinion, and my childhood defiently influenced the situation and made it more then it would have been if it was just that moment between us. and I was willing to just say alright lets just drop it and in the future kindly don't use that word. now ya know but instead...
he said "you're acting like a baby" because he gets defensive when he feels he might be in the wrong and eventually we did both drop it but I wanted to get other people's 2 cents just for some added perspectives to the situation.
How would you react to a situation like that?
